Love is a Choice. I am a pragmatic romantic; for me, love is more of a promise to love instead of a feeling. The “in love” phase typically subsides after 2 years. After that period, it becomes a choice to love that perfectly, imperfect person with all his / her flaws. There is no pretense. It just is. You feel comfortable with him / her, more so than with any previous partner. You don’t have to do anything spectacular. His / her presence is all you need. Watch TV in bed, take a walk, dine out at a restaurant, discuss spiritual beliefs, cuddle, share a laugh. Quality time for me is Love. And, it is a Choice. I can choose to spend time with him / her or I can choose not to.
Living in this age of technology, we are bombarded with the love stories of friends on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and personal Blogs. Usually, 1% of our friends / acquaintances post pictures of their “in love” phases. And, for people, like me, who love simply and easily and in private, seeing these images may force us to question whether we are settling or if that really is love. But, in the words of Nicholas Sparks, “love, I’ve come to understand, is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.”