There is a First love, from God, who loved us all before we even started loving each other. Second love is from our parents, friends, siblings and of course that significant other (for those of us that got him/her).
Sometimes, we expect from the second love what we should really be receiving from the first…that unconditional, total, self-giving love… If you are experiencing that from your person, then congratulations and good luck to u ;).
But, we must realize that we are limited in our abilities to be so unconditionally loving. Holding on to that Cinderella dream of finding that one person who is going to love us so completely can be disappointing.
The perfect love only comes from God.
– my interpretation of a teaching by Henri Nouwen